Discover How to Stop fighting, sulking and getting depressed over your married sex life. There is an answer!
Unfortunately for the first 14 years together, our marriage was good, but our sex life was a disaster.
I thought. “This is going to go badly. What if I can’t get aroused? What if we get started and it goes nowhere, and we end up angry at each-other? Why in the world, can’t I just enjoy this???” Talk about sexual performance anxiety. I had it bad – and didn’t even know it had a name.
What is wrong with me anyway? I wondered. I was a recognized expert in human potental, for heavens sakes! This was too humiliating. I felt like a total hypocrite. I couldn’t even win in my own bedroom.
As I thought about how to avoid sex one more time, I nervously stepped into the shower. When I did, I thought about our years together – the great times, the beautiful children, my frustration with not making my husband happier. And then out of the blue, I thought of something. It was some kind of a MINDSET TRICK.
With water pouring down on me, I suddenly remembered this crazy stres- relief technique I had seen on a video. It had something to do with shifting your energy while thinking about your distress. It had looked like the dumbest thing I’d ever seen in my life, but I was desperate.
Within a few moments, I felt calm and peaceful, but I still didn’t know if I would become aroused.
I did feel completely present though. I was aware of all my senses. I loved how the water felt on my skin. I loved how my shower gel smelled and I noticed that my body looked…read more.