In the beginning, all new relationships are in a “honeymoon period” where they can’t seem to get enough of each other. Both partners constantly want to be together and want to be with each other all the time. They talk, laugh, and make love all the time.
Getting The Attention You Deserve
This usually goes on for about the first 3 months or so of the relationship. Somewhere between the 4th and 6th months, the honeymoon period begins to cool down a bit. Now, it seems that there’s not that intense need to be together all the time anymore. In fact, it’s during this time that you may need to figure out how to get back some of the attention that you used to get from your partner.
Suddenly, you’re not only NOT at the top of his list but you may not even be in the top 5 of his list. There will be hanging out with his friends, gaming, sports, his family, and anything else that you may not have ever known he was totally into while you were going through the honeymoon phase. Now, you almost have to make an appointment with him to get to spend any time with him.
One thing you might try is getting tickets to a concert of his favorite band. In that way, you’ll not only grab his attention, but you’ll have fun, too. You COULD get him tickets to a sports event of his favorite team, but unless you’re also into that particular sport, you probably won’t have a lot of fun. He may even take those tickets and invite one of his buddies to go instead of you.
Plan a romantic evening where you cook a delicious dinner and light candles everywhere. Put on some sexy music, and try putting on something a bit sexy yourself. Just make sure that he understands that he CANNOT change these plans unless, of course, there’s a family illness or death. You have to make this clear because those inattentive men tend to also think nothing of changing plans with you at the last minute and leaving you hanging for the evening.
You can try greeting him at the door wearing nothing but stiletto heels and a smile. Many times that can get you some attention, but remember not to do it very often because you want it to be a surprise. Appearing at the door naked every day can kind of take the novelty away.
You can also try just sitting him down and letting him know that, while you certainly don’t mind that the 2 of you hang out separately with your own friends from time to time, that he still needs to spend time with you. If he can’t understand that, then maybe you just let him have ALL the time in the world he wants to spend with his buddies while you move on and find someone that wants to be with YOU. Some guys just don’t get it and will start to take you for granted pretty quickly. If it turns out that you’re in love with a teenager at heart, then you should probably keep looking until you find an adult.Read more
